The intent of the innovation of turning towards vulnerability is to embrace the potent potentials that swirl around us every moment. A good deal of our attention is consumed with avoiding vulnerability and the fears we have associated with it. At the root of this consuming task lie two misunderstood allies always eager to assert and to which we generally respond with more complex suppression. The first misunderstanding is we never learned how to embrace our vulnerability healthfully, and the other is nobody taught us what fear is really, really good for. We simply don’t understand vulnerability and fear as truly meaningful allies. When we learn that vulnerability is innate and is safe to feel, we can then act in new, pliable ways that were previously unavailable because we held ourselves in stalemate by turning away or turning against.
Now the good stuff! Fear is a really cool emotion. Fear is awesome. Fear is your best buddy, don’t leave home without it. Fear may well be the best emotion we have. OK, maybe that last one is a bit much, but fear is a big chunk of our life experience and yet we do all we can to ignore or avoid it. Fear is actually the rainbow bridge between our brain and our body. 🙂 Any fear you have ever had, are about to have, or will ever have is telling you one simple thing. When you listen to that one simple thing, fear time and again will transform into a pleasurable and, more than likely, joyful experience. The simple thing about fear is, it is telling you that you are not physically organized to participate in this experience healthfully. That is really simple, but the listening to that simple thing about fear is where the transformation occurs. Listening to what the fear is saying, you can then put your attention on compression and rest into that sensation. The moment you engage in this simple practice of resting into compression, your fear changes into actionable possibilities that are healthful and generally joyful outcomes.
In the moment you listened to your fear, you turned towards your vulnerability and the fear emerging from it. You then turned towards the supportive nature of the earth below you. You then no longer felt vulnerable and hence fearful and could act as needed in that moment, from a foundation that is far more capable. Those simple acts of turning towards transformed everything and opened your eyes to a plethora of new possibilities that were only a moment ago invisible or inaccessible. It seems odd that something so simple can remain so challenging to practice. This is so, because we have had a whole lifetime of practicing something different. When you learn the effortless nature of resting into the sensation of fear, of vulnerability, of compression, then the choice of turning towards becomes both enticing and unstoppable.
There is a sensation that goes with the resting into compression that always accompanies the transformation of our fear. The sensation is experienced as what can be best described as permeability. It’s the same sensation of permeability we experience when we authentically hug a loved one. In doing this, we feel an opening occur between what we know as our physical boundary and sensing into something more and yet this “more” becomes a part of us. This sensation of permeability is the felt sense of opening. Permeability is truly the opening in us to possibilities. We are opening to the experience. We are opening to our vulnerability. We are opening to encompassing the present with our care intact and expressed, with outcomes ensuing that match.
The sensation of permeability is actually very important. Permeability is how we entrain (harmonize or resonate) with our environment, with others, with ourselves. Being permeable with yourself may sound a little kinky, but this is where turning towards really shines, to create some very revolutionary personal insight and growth. In your breath, in your posture, in your emotional content, in the activity of your mind, you have learned to push against and pull away from connection. Intellectually we may understand that connection is inescapable but that knowledge changes nothing if we do not have the skillful means to participate in connection healthfully. When you rest into your fear, your vulnerability, and the sensation of compression, then the sensation of permeability arises in you towards the content alive in you. It is in this practice that you are grounded, centered and connected with the environment and with your own content. It is from this posture that healthful means can occur.
A Practice Commitment:
Rest into yourself whenever you notice pushing against or pulling away from yourself. Wherever, whenever you sense effort being asserted, check to see if resting into is an option. Sense the against or the away effort and rest into that energy tension by embracing the sensation until there is a transformation that feels like permeability. You cannot force permeability, it occurs.
Are you safer when you ignore or numb to when/where/how you are vulnerable?
On a scale from 1 to 10 of armoring yourself for protection, how much armoring is enough so you are no longer vulnerable?
Does pushing against or pulling away reduce your vulnerability?
Is it possible to mitigate your vulnerability so you are not vulnerable?
How much of your life force is spent daily mitigating your vulnerability?
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